|| 10 Tips for Quality Time ||
Last week we had a beautiful sunny day, which is unheard of mid-October in the PNW. We took full advantage of this and snapped some family pictures!
Our time together is something I really treasure. I’ve found that over the last couple of years my love language has shifted from gifts to quality time.
Having a husband gone for half of the year is challenging and I found myself trying too hard to make the off season something special. Squeezing in as much fun as possible in the months he was home. I’ve really learned that time together no matter what we are doing is making memories. Everyday together as a family is special. I don’t feel the need to do anything extravagant or to plan weekends jam packed with a million things to do anymore. Memories are made everyday, living simply, loving each other.
This whole baseball lifestyle has taught me a lot about quality time. If I’m not away from my husband during the season, I’m away from my parents- who I am very close to. For someone who is terrible with goodbye and a love language for quality time, the season can get very long!
10 Tips for Quality Time:
1.) This one is easy: turn off technology
2.) Don’t feel pressured to do everything perfect – it only makes things stressful
3.) Take pictures – I’ve found if I don’t, it’s hard to remember all the good things in life, when life gets tough…. Pictures are a good reminder
4.) If everything doesn’t go as planned, just go with it and make the best of it
5.) Take time for Jesus, pray. Pray for each other, pray for loved ones, pray for the world.
6.) Be positive, for me this can be hard. I find myself complaining or picking at my husband. I have too much to be thankful for and I’m too blessed to spend a moment in negativity. It can bring so much down and ruin a perfect day.
7.) Listen. This is something I learned from my dad and continue to work on. Lately if I have a thought, I just want to say it right then and there, before my mom-brain forgets and I kick myself. I need remember, listen, my thoughts can wait.
8.) Acknowledge. It’s so easy to get caught up in life, I forget to thank people for the little things and show I appreciate them.
9.) Your loved ones Love Language -Touch. I have a husband, who’s love language is physical touch. For someone who grew up in a not so touchy feely family (we expressed our love in other ways) – it’s tough to get used to this. Hugs and kisses for my husband is something I need to work on. It’s easy to just focus on your love language, but it may not be what gets through to your spouse.
10.) Making sure to say I Love You. I don’t know what it is, but no matter how much you know someone loves you – hearing those words is so important!