Turning Timeouts to Positives
As some of you may know, before becoming a mom I was a special education teacher. It was a very rewarding job and allowed for a lot of professional development that I can use in the future, should I chose to go back to work.
One of my favorite parts of being a teacher was working on behaviors. I love analyzing behaviors, creating plans to change behaviors and finding different strategies that work with different children.
Since becoming a mom, I’ve found that discipline is so much harder. As a mom, I hold my own children to a much higher standard. After all, I am the one raising them -they should know better. Am I right moms? A mom once told me that no one could make her more angry than her own children. I have found this to be so incredibly true.
Well, if you’re a mom, you probably know…. no child is perfect. Every child needs to be taught correct behavior and it’s not always easy.
I’ve also found that the “terrible twos” are not terrible at all. It’s a time of learning. Toddlers need to learn correct behavior, be taught boundaries, and discover cause and effect.
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I have also found that it is so incredibly hard to stay positive sometimes! So I’ve created a list of ways to turn disciplining my toddler into positive learning experiences.
I am a big believer of “Love and Logic strategies, as well as natural and logical consequences. I highly encourage researching or taking a class on Love and Logic.
Here are 5 tips to stay positive when you don’t like your toddler’s behavior:
1.) Turning “Timeouts” into “Break time” – I make it clear that he is not in trouble, and that he just needs to sit and calm down. I taught him to take deep breaths and rest his body.
2.) Allowing for sensory breaks. This was huge for me as a teacher. I am now realizing how beneficial it is for my own children. Sensory activities can include art/rice bins/ playdoh and basically any activity that stimulates the five senses, is self directed learning and self directed exploration.
3.) Social stories – These do a great job of explaining situations to children.
4.) Empathy – This one is huge. Making a child feel genuinely bad about their poor behaviors is far more effective than yelling or punishment.
5.) Unconditional Love – the most important thing is making sure your child knows that you still love him or her. Your relationship should always come first!