Trauma Awareness and “Cash Me Outside”

As a former teacher, I feel I was called to bring awareness to childhood trauma in this situation.

Have you seen the “Cash Me Outside” video? A 13 year old girl, brought on national TV – made out to be some bratty, out of control teenager.

T H I R T E E N years old – let that sink in. A girl just barely becoming a teenager.

After hearing that saying go viral, and the countless amount of people laughing, calling her names, and pretending like this is a joke – I wanted to share from the other side.

I’m not a psychologist, psychiatrist, a mental health specialist or anything that would qualify me to understand her mind. I am however an educator – someone who has spent years working with children of all disabilities – including mental health.

Does it surprise you to hear that almost every child with mental health issues has had trauma in their life and might have to seek mental health treatment in the future?

If you only knew the amount of children who are homeless, physically or emotionally abused, with family issues, sexually abused, and the list goes on – it would make you sick.

My heart hurts for this girl, 13 years old, made into a joke on national television. My heart hurts knowing that she hasn’t been given the opportunities that she deserves. My heart hurts that she may not experience unconditional love.

My heart hurts that there are so many children out there who have social emotional behaviors, because of trauma. That these children are looked at as “out of control”, and “problem kids”.

Instead of judging, and ignoring the fact that there may be deeper issues – everyone needs to understand childhood trauma and the impact it has on society as a whole.

The ACE study measures ten different types of childhood trauma. It give ten questions about events that have happened before ones 18th birthday. The number of questions answered “yes” is your ACE score. The higher your ACE score, the higher your chance is for health and social/emotional issues. Scores above four are most serious.

I like this study for a number of reasons. It shows how much impact we as parents have on our children. It shows how traumatic events impact our lives. Most importantly it shows us that some behaviors we see aren’t random – that children aren’t choosing to behave poorly.

I am all for a good laugh on social media. Give me all the memes, funny faces, and funny people. When it comes to a child’s mental health though, that is no laughing matter.

Bringing a child on national TV to be called out of control is not acceptable in my books.


I am glad that she was sent away for therapy. I don’t know her feelings on this, but at thirteen years old, I don’t feel she is mature enough to make the decision to act like the way she did on national television.

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4 Responses

  1. Katie Garday says:

    This breaks my heart. We have such power as parents to show love and support to our children. I hope she gets all the help she needs.

  2. Angela Kim says:

    This breaks my heart. I completely agree with you on this and I don’t hold her accountable for her behavior. She is only 13 years old! That’s one year older than my daughter and they are only a child. We need to embrace and love these kids, not judge them. I’m sorry but all this must be starting from her home.

  3. Rachel says:

    I had heard this saying, but I had no idea what it was about. This is …. insane. THIRTEEN!?!? UGH. 🙁

  4. Eryka says:

    Beautifully written post

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